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5 Habits You Need to Quit Right Now

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Always do your best. What you plant now, you will harvest later. ~Og Mandino Click To Tweet

I was first drawn to this quote by Mandino because the first part is the the Cub Scout motto. I have two Cub Scouts, so we say, “Always do your best!” All. The. Time. But the second part is what’s drawing me now. “What you plant now, you will harvest later.” While we normally think of positive habits and hard work, I think this phrase can also apply to examining our negative habits. Here are a few habits I think are worth examining to see what you’re planting so you can think ahead to the harvest.

Telling Yourself You’re Not Good Enough

To succeed, you need to believe in yourself. We often tell children they can do anything they want with their lives, and be anything they want. But do we tell ourselves that? Examine the internal chatter going on in your head, and kill off the negative thoughts before they can plant roots. You are good enough. Believe it, and act on it.

Comparing Yourself to Others

Your only real competition is yourself. Comparing yourself to others is just asking to feel inferior. It’s particularly difficult to avoid comparison since we’re constantly on social media, comparing other people’s highlight reels with our own bloopers and outtakes. You don’t know the stories behind those highlight reels, so you shouldn’t compare yourself to them.

Indulging in Scarcity Thinking

People who indulge in scarcity thinking believe there isn’t “enough” to go around — enough money, enough readers, enough jobs, enough love. They believe there are only a few winners, and a whole lot of losers, and they’re afraid of being on the losing end. That fear makes them resent competition, and they may be reluctant to share knowledge or resources for fear of losing out. On the other hand, people who engage in abundance mindsets believe there is enough, of everything, to go around — plenty of money, resources, love, success. That abundance mindset creates in them the desire to share knowledge, to lend a hand, to think bigger than themselves. And that leads to confidence, gratitude, and generosity. Which one do you think will reap the bigger harvest?

Blaming Other People for Your Current Circumstances

Whether it’s a lost job, a difficult childhood, or a broken relationship, it can be easy to default to the position of blaming others for the difficulties we’ve encountered in our lives. But blaming others can make you feel powerless to take control over your life, and it invites chaos in. You’re only hurting yourself by blaming others, so it’s time to take a close look at where you might be shifting the blame onto others. Forgive them, take responsibility for your part, and move on.

Saying Yes When You Want to Say No

Saying yes when I want to say no has always been a difficult habit for me. A lifelong people pleaser, I didn’t want to disappoint, so I often said yes to things I wasn’t interested in or flat out didn’t want to do for fear of disappointing others. The result was an overloaded schedule, and I was so overwhelmed with tasks I wasn’t even interested in that I was neglecting the people and commitments that really did matter to me. If you want to say no to something, then say no. It’s important to be able to make intentional decisions that move you forward toward what you want in life.

What habits do you have that may need to be reevaluated for the harvest they may provide? Are there any habits you need to quit?

30 Ideas You Can Use Right Now to Reduce Stress

Do you ever forget to take care of yourself? I definitely do. It can be so difficult to find time to take care and pamper yourself when you’re busy. But if you want to be on top of your game as well as take great care of your family, you need to make time in your schedule for a little self-care. It’s not indulgent — it’s necessary to keep yourself feeling both mentally and physically healthy. Take some time now to explore a few ways to care for yourself before you’re desperate for rest from exhaustion and the chaos of daily life.

30 Ideas You Can Use Right Now to Reduce Stress

Here are 30 of my favorite ways to reduce stress and indulge in a little self-care.

  1. Go for a walk in nature.
  2. Buy yourself some fresh, seasonal flowers.
  3. Put on your favorite playlist and dance around the living room.
  4. Try some yoga or stretching.
  5. Read (or reread) a favorite book.
  6. Check out a new magazine that you’ve never explored.
  7. Take a long hot bath with some Epsom salts and essential oils. Light a candle and play some of your favorite music.
  8. Get a massage.
  9. Curl up with your favorite hot beverage.
  10. Check out a new show on Netflix, or binge-watch your favorite show.
  11. Get a massage.
  12. Get a manicure or pedicure. Make sure to ask for that awesome massage chair!
  13. Watch a good movie.
  14. Cuddle with your kids or your partner.
  15. Meet up with a friend and do some catching up.
  16. Spend some quality time with your pet.
  17. Indulge in your favorite treat.
  18. Try a new recipe.
  19. Grab some take-out or order delivery.
  20. Do something artistic.
  21. Try out a new hobby.
  22. Declutter your space, keeping only items that bring you joy.
  23. Jot down what you’re grateful for.
  24. Turn off your phone for a few hours.
  25. Put away the screens.
  26. Try a new exercise, whether it’s Zumba, jogging, yoga, or another activity you’ve been thinking about.
  27. Create a vision board.
  28. Schedule a girls’ night with your friends.
  29. Take your kids out for ice cream just because.
  30. Drink your favorite cold beverage outside in the sun.

What are your favorite ways to take care of yourself and indulge in a little me-time? Share your ideas in the comments!