Creating a Life Free From Chaos

Why You Should Stop Saying “I Can’t Do That!”

Why You Should Stop Saying "I Can't Do That!"Have you ever watched a friend accomplish something amazing, and your immediate response was, “I can’t do that.” I have. This sneaky little thought pops into my head almost daily. I’m a writer — I work with other writers in all stages of their writing careers. I’m a simplicity consultant — I look at other people’s homes, their calendars, their routines, and habits. I’m a working mom with kids entering the preteen and teenage years — I see the triumphs of other families while thinking of our struggles.

From my work, I know I’m not the only one with that thought sneaky thought. I can’t do that. Writers tell me all the time that they just can’t do what “he” or “she” does. Every day I hear “I can’t write like that. I’ll never be able to write a book. I’ll never be a ‘real’ writer.”

Friends and clients tell me they want a simpler lifestyle, a cleaner home, or a less chaotic schedule. One breath later, they also tell me, “but I can’t do it. My house will never look like that. I’ll always have way too much stuff. My calendar and to-do list will never have breathing space. I’ll never be able to break that bad habit.”

The variations of “I can’t” is astounding.

And my response is this: Why not?

Seriously, why can’t you do {insert your desire here}? What exactly is holding you back from pursuing the job you’ve always wanted, from creating a home you feel relaxed and secure in, from removing some of the fluff from your schedule? Why can’t you change your habits to pursue a healthier lifestyle, to pay off your debt, to free up your obligations so you can travel more?

It’s not that you really can’t do something. It’s that you’re currently not doing it. Click To Tweet

Most of the time, it’s not that you really can’t do something. It’s that you’re currently not doing it. There’s a difference there, and it’s usually because of the negative mental chatter going on inside our heads. It’s just so easy to tell ourselves that we can’t do something than to put forth the effort it’s going to take to do it. Maybe we feel like it’s not worth the effort, that we’re not good enough, or that we don’t have what it takes to succeed. Why bother if we know we might fail?

To be or not to be…

Every success starts with a decision to just get started. The will to try anyway. The intention to succeed. The simple choice to say “I can.”

Constantly telling yourself that you can’t do something means you won’t. You’re deciding to fail without even trying. Changing the language inside your head to a more positive dialogue instantly boosts your chances of success. Start thinking in terms of what can work, the best that could happen, the talents you have, the gifts you were given.

Stop the comparison game.

Social media hits us hardest when we covet what other people have, what they can do. As the saying goes, we compare our shortcomings to other people’s highlight reels. It’s fantastic if you can find inspiration in other’s success, but it’s the ultimate dream killer if all you can see is what you couldn’t, or didn’t, do. You need to think about what you’re capable of and what resources you have at your disposal — not what others have or can do. They’re just showing you the good stuff, not the stuff that keeps them up at night, wondering the same things you wonder: Am I good enough? Am I doing enough?

Yes, yes you are.

Reverse the mindset that you don’t have what it takes, and instead embrace the possibility that you already have everything you need. Sometimes getting from point A to point B isn’t a straight line — you may need to get creative about how to get there. But you can get there, as long as you keep telling yourself you can.

7 Steps to Transform Your Kitchen for Spring

7 Steps to Transform Your Kitchen for SpringLately, I’ve been drooling over all the bright, clean kitchens on Instagram and Pinterest. It’s amazing how something as simple as a good spring clean or a bouquet of fresh flowers on the counter can help you fall in love with the home you have — whether it’s a tiny apartment or your dream home.

First, grab this free set of Mrs. Meyer’s spring hand soap + dish soap + multi-surface spray + spring kitchen towel with your first order of $20 from Grove Collaborative. You can choose from three limited-edition Mrs. Meyer’s spring scents: mint, lilac, or peony.  If you’re already a Grove customer, you’ll receive free Grove walnut scrubber sponges.

Then follow my tips to create a clean, fresh kitchen — just in time for spring!

Step 1: Set the Mood

Instead of treating spring cleaning as a chore, set the tone for an enjoyable day by opening the windows to let the spring air in and brewing a fresh pot of coffee.

Step 2: Clean Slate

Start with a clean slate. Put away any appliances on your counters, cups and dishes, and generally clear the kitchen of clutter. Use Mrs. Meyer’s multi-surface spray to clean appliances, the inside of the fridge, countertops, and backsplashes. Bonus: Mrs. Meyers sprays leave your kitchen smelling like a spring garden!

Step 3: Polish Your Pots and Pans

To get your pots and pans ready for new spring recipes, make a paste with Bon Ami powder (my favorite for cleaning burned food off my cobalt-coated cast iron pots) and water and apply it all over. Let it sit for about 10 minutes, then wipe away those scorch marks with a sponge. I prefer Grove’s walnut scrubber sponges because they don’t scratch your cookware!

Step 4: Shine Your Sink

The sink is probably the most used area in your kitchen but gets the least love when it’s time to clean. We have a stainless steel farm sink, and I feel like I’m cleaning it all.the.time. Grab the Bon Ami again and sprinkle it on your sink and faucet, rub with a wet cloth, and then wipe clean.

To freshen up your garbage disposal, squirt Mrs. Meyer’s dish soap into the disposal and run the disposal with hot water. The mint scent is especially good for neutralizing odors!

Step 5: Accessorize with Essentials

New, colorful sink-side accessories can totally transform your kitchen. I love Mrs. Meyer’s hand and dish soaps because they add a pop of cheerful color to my kitchen and smell amazing! The packaging is cute enough that I don’t mind leaving them on the counter.

Step 6: Freshen Your Towels

Treat your kitchen to a fresh new towel in a spring color. I consider these Grove chef’s towels an essential since they work for everything from wiping hands to drying spills and dishes. The cornflower blue color is brand new, and you’ll be among the first to get one!

Step 7: Add the Finishing Touches

Trick your guests into thinking you redecorated with strategically placed accessories like a bamboo cutting board, a wooden handle dish brush, or a stoneware tray (mine are all from Grove!). Try filling glass jars with fresh herbs like cilantro, mint, or chives (that you can use!) or grab a beautiful vase of fresh flowers. Go easy on the decor though! Too much of a good thing can quickly become clutter.

Bonus tip: I’m a huge fan of Grove Collaborative because they help me create a healthy, beautiful home I can feel proud of (plus their delivery means I don’t have to trek to the store!). When you submit your first order using my link, you’ll be signed up for the free 60-day VIP trial. For 60 days, you’ll save even more with free shipping, free gifts, price matching, exclusive sales, and personal service.

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Video: 5 Tips to Help You Start Simplifying Today

Hey everyone! In lieu of a post today, I thought I’d try out a video! I’m getting back into doing videos, as so many of my readers have said they love the quick and personal nature of them.

Please share with your friends if you think they could use a little simplifying boost!